Pre-Plan  /  Pre-Planning Checklist

A checklist for planning ahead

Work through it in any order, at whatever pace suits you. Nothing here has to be finished in one sitting.

Where to start


Most people put this off because it feels like a large job. It is not. It is a series of small decisions, and taking control of them tends to feel better than expected, because you know it is the right thing to do for the people you love.

Print this page, or work through it with us at the kitchen table. There is no charge for the conversation and no obligation at the end of it.

The checklist

1. Prepare

The decisions only you can make. Start here, and take as long as you like.

  1. Decide between burial and cremation
    The single choice that shapes most of what follows. Either one still leaves room for a service, a visitation and a gathering afterward.
  2. Choose the kind of service you want
    A traditional funeral, a memorial service, a graveside gathering or a celebration of life. There is no wrong answer here.
  3. Write down the people who should be told
    Names and numbers for family, close friends, your church, clubs, former colleagues. This is the list your family will be most grateful for.
  4. Gather the facts for the death certificate
    Full legal name, date and place of birth, Social Security number, parents' names, and military service if it applies.
  5. Note anything personal you want included
    Readings, hymns, music, flowers, who should speak, what you would rather not have. Small details make a service feel like a person.
  6. Pick out a recent photograph
    One you actually like. It will be used for the obituary and at the service.

2. Arrange and delegate

The practical side, and the people who will handle it.

  1. Name who will carry out your wishes
    Say plainly who is responsible, and make sure that person knows you have chosen them.
  2. Tell someone where these plans are kept
    The most common gap we see. A plan nobody can find does not help anyone.
  3. Locate your important documents
    Will, insurance policies, deeds, titles, military discharge papers. Note where each one lives.
  4. List accounts and subscriptions to close
    Utilities, phone, streaming services, memberships, anything that renews on its own.
  5. Consider a cemetery plot or niche
    If you want a permanent place, deciding now spares your family a decision under pressure.
  6. Talk it through with your family
    Not a single conversation so much as a door left open. Tell them why you are doing it.

3. Settle the costs

Optional, but it is the part that protects your family financially.

  1. Ask for an itemized price list
    You are entitled to one and we are glad to hand it over. Take it home and read it without us in the room.
  2. Decide whether to pre-fund
    Pre-funding locks in today's prices on guaranteed items. Your money sits in a state-approved funding option until it is needed.
  3. Check what your insurance already covers
    Some policies include a funeral benefit. It is worth knowing before you fund anything twice.
  4. Look into veterans benefits
    If you served, there may be burial allowances, a headstone and military honors available at no cost to your family.
  5. Account for a cemetery or monument
    These are usually billed separately from funeral services. Ask so nothing surprises anyone later.
  6. Review the plan every few years
    Wishes change, families move, prices shift. A short check-in keeps everything current.

We will walk through it with you

Bring what you have, even if it is only half finished. We will help you fill in the rest and keep your wishes on file so your family only has to make one call.

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